EPISODE 23: REDEFINING BALANCE WITH CHRISTY WRIGHT
Live Date: October 25, 2021
Show Description: In today’s episode, Heather sits down with bestselling author and coach Christy Wright to unpack the word that seems to follow women around: balance. The two unravel their previously-held definitions of the word and share new ways to approach the day to lead more fulfilling and forgiving lives.
This Episode Will Teach You:
The four things that keep us from doing the right things at the right time
How to shift your mindset about balance
How to organize your to-do list to go from an ideal schedule to an actual schedule
Biggest Takeaways:
Heather and Christy discuss the struggle we all face because we feel like we don’t have enough time for what we want to do. Everybody faces this struggle, men and women, those with side businesses, small businesses, full-time careers, parents, those that don't have kids, any age, any state. It’s a pain point for so many people, and the pair dive into the idea of elusive balance. Christy wants to reclaim this word, balance, redefine it and shine light in a space that can weigh people down.
Christy dives into her idea that balance is not doing everything for an equal amount of time. Instead, it’s about doing the right things at the right time. And when you do the right things at the right time, you will actually feel that sense of balance you've been looking for.
Heather and Christy talk about the trap of productivity and how finding fulfillment is not about doing more. It's not about doing everything. They unravel the common misconceptions around balance, the juggling, work-life harmony, the idea that there is a 50-50 split between work and life.
About the Guest: Christy Wright is a number 1 bestselling author, personal growth expert, and host of The Christy Wright Show. She’s also the founder of Business Boutique, which equips women to make money doing what they love. Regardless of where you are today, Christy will help you build confidence in yourself, strengthen your faith, and become the person God created you to be.
Quotables:
“What's so interesting is in the last ten years of coaching people in business, the number one question that I'm asked is not a business question. It's the question “How do you balance it all?” - Christy Wright, 4:09
“This new book of yours is exactly what I believe our listeners are craving. You know, we are all busy working women. We're smart and successful, and we're driven and ambitious, and we're running companies and leading teams, and we're growing our business and careers all the while. You know, we're desperate for that strong quality of life, both at home and at work, we wear all the hats.” - Heather Adams, 5:59
“Well, I want to give context to that word, balance. When we talk about this word, we have eye rolls, and grunts and people hate it. Everyone hates it. I think the reason we hate it is because it makes us feel guilty. All it does is it feels like an impossible standard that we can't meet.” - Christy Wright, 9:25
“It turns out that the path to true balance is not productivity. It's not doing more. It's not doing everything. And so what I wanted to do is take these common misconceptions around balance, the juggling, the work-life harmony, all this stuff. That sounds nice and makes you feel good, and you can stitch it on a pillow, but it doesn't actually help you in your life. And I wanted to redefine it to what I believe true balance is work-life balance is not a 50-50 split. That's not realistic or even desirable.” - Christy Wright, 11:56
“ When you do the right things at the right time, you decide what's right for you this season, this week today.” - Christy Wright, 13:15
“I did the right things at the right time. I am proud of how I spent my day. It is shifting your focus from all the things you think you're not doing right. Instead, bringing them front and center on what's right, right now. That is what will make you become a balanced person in an out-of-balance world. And that is freeing. And the great news is it's possible.” - Christy Wright, 14:10
“Step one, decide what matters. Step two, stop doing what doesn't matter. Step three, create a calendar that reflects what matters. Step four, protect what matters. Step five, be present for what matters and when you do that in any new season, you'll always be doing the right things at the right time, and you get to decide what's right for you.” - Christy Wright, 21:38
“You need help. If you're going to be able to do things that are important to you, you're going to need help to be able to do it. Help from your spouse around the house, help for childcare, for you to get a break. You need help in order to make these other things you're identifying possible.” - Christy Wright, 23:17
“How I'm taking care of myself today? The reason I do this is that I want to remind myself that self-care is not a spa day, once a year on your birthday, right? It's not a luxury you get on a holiday. Self-care is something we should be doing every day in small ways. It doesn't have to be this grand gesture.” - Christy Wright, 28:12
“When you get in the rhythm of asking yourself, ‘what's right right now?’ you give yourself permission to change your mind, your plans, your priorities as your needs change. And this is huge for women because so many women, because we don't do this. We don't ever consider that. When things change, we have permission to adapt with them.” - Christy Wright, 37:07
“You are in control of your calendar—no one else. And so, we first need to take ownership there. We need to realize that the person that is responsible is us, which is great news because that means that we are also the solution.” - Christy Wright, 38:58
“When you look at your ideal schedule next to your current schedule, you'll notice they're probably different. Some things didn’t get moved over. That's a good thing because you identify things that you don't have to do, that you don't want to do. So you should not be doing them. Now the caveat to this is, of course, I don't want you to walk out on all your commitments tomorrow, of course, it’s a good way to create balance or good relationships, but you can make incremental changes.” - Christy Wright, 42:01
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